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The idea of destination weddings is still a pretty novel concept, so it can be hard to find one place with answers to all those questions that keep you up at night!
When do you mail invitations? How do you tell your guests’ kids aren’t allowed? Who do you invite to the at-home reception? Is a bridal shower appropriate? Who pays for what?
I’ve been there, and I feel your pain. That’s why you’ll find tons of advice and answers to all your destination etiquette questions throughout this website. And if you don’t find what you’re looking for, just ask away and I’ll try to personally respond with real advice and tips based on real experience. Due to the overwhelming amount of questions I receive each day, it’s difficult to answer every single person but I do try my best to get to most questions. Before you ask, make sure you check out the following pages because you might find your questions already been answered.
- 11 frequently asked destination wedding planning questions
- Answers to all your Destination wedding etiquette questions
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- Destination Wedding Invitation Etiquette 101
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Destination Wedding Etiquette Q&A
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At-home reception invitation etiquette 
I am creating a friend’s Save-the-Date and invitations for their destination wedding. They are only inviting close friends and family to their destination …
Destination Wedding RSVP Deadline
What is the best way to get an accurate headcount for a destination wedding? What is the best deadline timeline to ask for an RSVP for a destination wedding? …
Inviting guests to the shower but not the destination wedding
I know it is not proper etiquette to invite anyone to the shower who isn’t invited to the wedding, however, when I mentioned the wedding to a few coworkers, …
Destination wedding with no guests
My fiance and I have been engaged for a few months and are planning to get married in a simple ceremony on a tropical island on our Thanksgiving Break …
Destination wedding/honeymoon etiquette
My fiance and I are planning to spend 3-4 days with our guests prior to the ceremony but would like guests to leave the morning after our wedding…
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My fiance and I live outside of Chicago, IL and are planning a destination wedding in Marco Island, FL. We are only inviting around 30 people and it will …
Destination Wedding Engagement Party Not rated yet
We are having a Destination Wedding and would like to invite everyone to a pre-celebration. What could that be? An engagement party? A couples shower? …
Sending Destination Wedding Invitations to Guests Who Can’t Afford to Attend Not rated yet
Is it proper to invite people that are close to me but that I KNOW full well, cannot afford to come?
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Destination Wedding Etiquette Advice & Tips
I have a question. I just got engaged and I plan on doing a destination wedding, but don’t have a set date yet. We want it in a couple years. How do I let people know the plans.
Hi Elyse,
If your wedding won’t be for another couple of years, you should create a wedding website and send it to everyone you’ll be inviting to the destination wedding. At this stage, the website will serve as more of an announcement of your engagement but you can update it once you have your wedding date and more information. You can check out this post for more info on wedding websites and a review of our favorites.
Hello! My fiancé and I have decided to do a destination wedding in port of a cruise. We had originally been planning to do a large traditional wedding in our hometown, but literally decided a week ago that we would rather do an intimate ceremony with the people that really matter to us. I have tons of questions, and cannot really find a whole lot of resources for cruise destination weddings. My main concern at this point is that we decided to get married in May of this year, and so we’re already less than 4 months from the date. We’ve already verbally told those who are invited so that they can start to get plans together. What is etiquette in terms of getting save-the-dates and/or invitations out to those we are inviting? Your advice would be appreciated!
Hi Katie!
You should set up a personal website as soon as possible and provide as many details as possible on it (date, location, travel info, etc..). Here’s a post that gives you more info on personal websites and some good free ones you can set up quickly: A review of the best personal wedding websites. You don’t really need to send save the dates at this point unless you really want to. The wedding is so soon that you’d be better off sending a link to a personal website because it will be more useful to your guests. You should then follow up with a formal invitation about 2 months before the wedding. Hope this helps and best of luck!
xx Cynthia
Hello, Your site has been very helpful and has lots of great information! Unfortunately most of the destination wedding advice I find is for resorts and my fiance and I are getting married in Hawaii at a ranch. I am wondering what the transportation etiquette is if we don’t know where everyone is staying and they may be scattered around the island? I also want to plan activities, such as a welcome BBQ that we would pay for. But I am also thinking of maybe planning free excursions like to the beach or free attractions. Is that a good idea? I would love to do things like welcome drinks and goodie bags but with people staying all over the island it will be too difficult.
Thanks!
Marissa
I rented a huge house for my destination wedding in Key West. It’s a week-long celebration – a “wedcation.” What’s the etiquette for asking guests to pay to stay at the house and how much? I want everyone to be together, also it’s cheaper than hotel rooms.
Hi Maggie – This is pretty common for destination weddings. What a lot of couples do is divide the cost of the house among all guests. For example, if you’re paying $1,000 for the house and you have 20 guests, they’d each pay $50. If you have a wedding website, that is the very best place to put those details. You should have a section for Accommodations where you can say that you have rented a house for everyone at a more affordable rate than it would cost them to stay in a hotel. The tricky part about this type of arrangement is collecting the money. If you have a wedding planner, this could be something they can help with. If not, maybe there’s someone really close to you (i.e. mom, sister, BFF), who can collect payment so that you don’t have to worry about it on top of everything else you have going on. Good luck!
Hi there! Thank you so much for your posts. They are helping me a great deal!
I am in a bit of a bind right now over when to send my DW invite and RSVP deadline. Our wedding is not until February 2nd 2017, however the group rate we secured through our Travel Agent, requires deposits in by April 22 2016 and final payments by May 26 2016. If not, rates go up and final payments are due latest Nov 26 2016.
Can you please offer your suggestion with regards to the invites going out and RSVP deadline?
I have a website set up and Save The Dates were all sent out last week. No one has called the Travel Agent yet to make their deposits, so I am getting a bit worried.
Thanks,
Sandra
Hi Sandra,
Your situation is really tricky because of the timing!
Does your wedding website give you the option to send email reminders/alerts? Most websites do, so I would suggest that you send your guests a reminder via the website, that the deadline is approaching and tell them the prices will go up if they don’t book by April 22nd. If your guest list is very small and intimate, I would even make some phone calls. Beyond that, there’s not much else you can do but wait. 95% of the people I invited to my wedding attended, but almost every single one of them waited until a day or two before the deadline to book their trip! It was super stressful so I know exactly how you feel. It might take a bit of nudging to motivate your guests, especially because the wedding is a year away! It can be tough for people to commit to travel arrangements that far out (due to work, finances, childcare, etc..)
Have you tried talking to your travel agent to see if there’s any flexibility with the dates/deadlines?
In your particular situation, the invitations will be more of a formality. Invitations are usually sent 2-3 months before the wedding but at that point, your deadline for final deposits would have passed. I would suggest sending the invitations in October and making the RSVP deadline about a week before final deposits are due (November 19th). But like I said, hopefully by then you’ll already have a better idea of who’s attending so that those invitations will be more of a formality.
Since your wedding is a year away, but you have all these deadlines throughout the year, I suggest you stay in constant communication with your guests via the website. Send friendly reminders/messages each time a deadline is approaching. Make sure those dates are prominently displayed on your website and make sure it’s clear that if they don’t book by those dates, the rates will go up. Nobody wants to pay more than they have to so if they’re already planning to go, they’ll more than likely book by the deadline.
Good luck!
My Fiance and I decided we wanted to do a destination wedding for many reasons – fun, sun, limited guest list (100 vs 200), and I’ve never wanted the traditional wedding. So, we decided on Mexico in about a year. The problem is, we are only doing a symbolic ceremony, due to the laws in Mexico and the extra hassle and cost. So, we have to do a small legal ceremony at home first. Though our wedding in Mexico is over a year away, we have a lot of financial reasons to be married now (insurance, buying a house, etc). We did a small ceremony on a Wednesday with just his parents and mine.
The problem I’m facing now, is that I’m starting to feel like I’m deceiving my guests coming to Mexico, because they won’t be witnessing the “real” wedding. When we booked everything, I really didn’t think this would all bother me, but it is.
My question is, should I give guests a heads up that its a symbolic ceremony? Or should I just keep quiet? There are a few close friends that know the plan, but I’m worried about word getting out, and it not coming from me on my terms and in my words.
Any advice?
Hi Meg,
I had a legal ceremony at home a few weeks before my destination wedding because like you, I didn’t want to deal with all the legal hassles abroad. In our case, we kept it quiet. We don’t even remember when we got “legally” married. We only celebrate our destination wedding anniversary. The legal ceremony didn’t really mean much to us – we just went to city hall with one witness, signed the paperwork and went about our day. Because it didn’t mean much to us, we felt that it was unnecessary to even tell anyone. But at the end of the day, you should go with your gut. If the legal ceremony was important to you and you feel that it’s important to tell your guests – go ahead and do so. Your destination wedding is where you will celebrate your union with your loved ones and that’s all that counts. Some people might feel duped but if they truly love you, the only thing that will matter to them is having the opportunity to come together and celebrate your love regardless of where or how you do it. I’ve been to many destination weddings where the couple has already been legally married (sometimes for years) and it didn’t take away from the experience or celebration one bit. There is no right or wrong answer here. You just have to do what feels right to you. Good luck & congrats!!
If the grooms mother can’t afford to attend my all inclusive destination wedding, should the couple offer to pay her way?
If this is something you can afford, I think it would be a very nice gesture.
We are having a destination wedding in Mexico this fall. The guest list is small with close friends and family and we will not be having a reception when we get back. Is it proper etiquette to send an announcement to those who are not invited to Mexico? Just a ‘We’re Married!’ sort of thing when we get back? Or do we let the sleeping dog lie in this instance?
Wedding announcements are typically sent to the invited and uninvited – regardless of the size of the wedding. So it is not poor etiquette for you to send out an announcement saying something like “We got married in a small intimate ceremony…” But it is also not necessary – so whether or not you send announcements is totally a matter of personal preference.
I’m personally not a huge fan of sending out announcements. When I got married, I invited close family/friends. Everyone else knew I was having an intimate destination wedding. If they weren’t invited and didn’t know about the wedding beforehand, then they weren’t that important and an announcement seemed kind of pointless to me. But that’s my personal opinion. I let the sleeping dog lie:)
We are looking into Destination wedding, and are also looking into etiquette options….I am kind of interested in doing the online honeymoon registry … but HOW do you do that for a DW????? At first we were thinking of doing a DW & Then an at-home reception, but do you send info about the honeymoon registry in the inviation for that??? Or the other option I’d like to do {maybe instead} is have an engagement party BEFORE the destination wedding {& no at-home reception after we come back}, do I have info at that for the online honeymoon registry there???
Also do people just expect you to have an at-home recpetion when you come back, or do you just simply tell them “this is THE party”
The best place to put honeymoon registry information is on your wedding website. It’s not proper etiquette to include gift information on the actual invitations. You can put the URL for your wedding website on your invitations or save the dates. You can see a review of the best travel & beach themed personal wedding websites here: https://destinationweddingdetails.com/destination-wedding-website.html
That post also has examples of wording and the type of information you should include on your wedding website.
People don’t expect an at-home reception. I didn’t have one and I know a lot of other people who opted to not have an AHR. This is totally up to you and your budget:) If you do decide to have an at-home reception, you can check out this post for more tips on wording: https://destinationweddingdetails.com/athome-reception-invitation-etiquette.html
And this post has some tips on when to send out the Destination wedding save the date and invitations as well as the invitations for the at-home reception: https://destinationweddingdetails.com/send-destination-wedding-invitations.html
I hope this info helps!
Hello. I am having a destination wedding on September 26 2015 in the beautiful Smoky Mountains I was wondering….since the venue depends on headcount should I book my venue before I contact the friends and family I want to invite. Venues are filling up fast. And I’m getting nervous we won’t get a nice venue. So should I just verbally mention to get a somewhat headcount…. my fiance and I want about 30 people there. Thank you
For single guests attending our destination wedding in Hawaii, do we have to invite them plus a guest? I realize they will be travelling with someone to Hawaii, but don’t really want some random person we have never met at our wedding.
I’m having a destination wedding and then a reception at home following and I am trying to plan my bridal shower but I’m at a loss as to who to invite. Is it proper etiquette to invite people to the shower, but not the wedding if I plan on inviting them to the at home reception? And if so, do I need to send invitations out to the at home reception before the shower invites. Most everyone knows that my guest list is limited to family and the bridal party.
My boyfriend of two year is invited to a 4day long destination wedding. I was not. We both have gone out with the couple many times before they moved away 6months ago. Since then he has stayed in loose contact with the bride. (She has also told me he’s a catch and she would hook him up with her friends, if it weren’t for me of course) He wants to go. It hurts my feelings. I would like him to pass. What do you think?
hey! ok so this is one thing that my fiancee and i cant agree on because hes do old school and so is his family but mines not. ok so as far as wedding gifts I personally feel that we dont need any gifts we have everything. I found this website that makes it so instead of gifts (which will be hard because we will be traveling and cant bring gifts with us) they can pay for activities we can do in Hawaii or a bottle of champagne for our toast at our reception dinner or a romantic sunset dinner cruise for the two of us…. i mean the list goes on. but I think its pretty cool that since they cant make it then they can some what be apart of our experience. and I was thinking as apart or our thank you card we can send them a picture of us while we are doing the activity and share it with them! But my fiancee thinks its cheesy and he thinks it will offend some of his family (which he already has by doing a destination wedding) so I dont know what to do…. he thinks we are asking for money which we arent we are asking them to help us experience hawaii. i feel like i would rather be a part of that then sending a serving tray that will just collect dust. PLEASE HELP!! LOL
i am getting married in india because my fiance is indian. His parents have been looking for venues and keep asking me to confirm my numbers with them so they can select a venue but its only been a month since the engagment and the wedding isnt until feb. my question is should i use my save the dates and ask ppl to confirm giving them 1 month or 2 to respond and then just leave the formal invite as more of an informational thing with the specific venue and time of the wedding? im so confused! i dont want to give them a number and then by the time the formal invites (in about sept) get sent get a very different one. please help an advice would be appreciated 🙂
I am having a destination wedding in Santa Barbara, CA. I have a wedding planner I hired from Los Angeles and it is a destination wedding for her as well! In her contract she requested accomendations for her as well. Is this normal? I am having difficulties finding literature about this as I agree but my finance does not. Please help!
is it ok to skip the reception dinner at an all inclusive resort?
We are getting married in Canada where I am from and want to send invitations to our family in Australia who we know are not likely to attend. It is important to us that they are included but are wondering how we can word the invitations without putting pressure on them to attend. We do plan on having a celebration when we return to Australia.
Thank you!!!
Hi, we are having a destination wedding at an all inclusive resort in Mexico next month and I had a few questions about tipping. Now I read some of your info but I still am not sure of what to do. We have a wedding planner and some wait staff and a photographer that will be there on our day. I’m not sure if I should contact the resort to ask them if maybe they have a tipping policy or not, I hear some resorts frown on it so I wan’t to be sure I do the right thing along with not insulting anyone. Do we tip the wedding planner and the wait staff and photographer? We paid for the wedding package that was separate from our all inclusive package so I wasn’t sure about the tipping part. Any ideas or thoughts? Thank you.
Hello,
I need help on to word my “save the date’ cards for the welcome party and rehearsal dinner. I would like the guests to know that the invitation for both events is only for people who are staying in the all inclusive resort however for the wedding everyone can attend. I need to be polite and diplomatic without sounding too cheap. Thank you
Hi, we are having our DW in November and our wedding planner sent out a save the date with information on those wishing to attend. Much to our suprise 80% of our guests have booked! Nobody has heard from my fiancé or i as of yet…
I’m totally prepared to send out formal invitations but I need help with how to address people getting this who have already booked and confirmed attendance.
As well, our numbers need to be confirmed and costs paid by August for the group, so when should they go out? Do you have any templates for a note to include? Is that appropriate?
Any help is appreciated!!
I am having my wedding during the middle of the largest gathering for my alternative religion in the country. However, due to the obvious out-of-the-box nature of the event, besides the fact that it’s in the middle of the woods with no handicapped access and very little parking, many older family members would not feel welcome. Also, anyone who came to the wedding would have to register and be provided a day pass to the event simply for insurance and legal reasons.
We are having a separate reception, but we’re already having people come to us with confusion as to why there are two separate dates. How can I reword my website so that it doesn’t sound so harsh, while still getting the point across that no one is REQUIRED to come to the ceremony? I want to make this as easy as possible for my guests, but I also want to be firm that coming to the ceremony will have certain expectations of behavior. If anyone feels uncomfortable with that, they can STILL come to the reception with NO HURT FEELINGS (hopefully on either side).
Im having a destination wedding in a very expensive venue with about 30 guests. Following the wedding were having a reception on location. Some friends and family are quite upset that we have no plans of a second reception at home. My question is that Should we have to pay for a second reception at home to make everyone else happy who could not attend?
When we are paying for the entire thing with no help from anyone including my father’s plane tickets. And at $190 a plate at the first reception our budget will be maxed out. Im getting the guilt grip.
I want to make a simple itinerary of things the groom and I will be doing the weekend of our wedding. I want to include a few sentences at the top of it stating that the guest are more than welcome to attend, but shouldn’t feel obligated to. That they can do whatever they want if they don’t sent to do the activates I have listed. I’m trying to figure out wording for this. Can you help me??
hello, Im stuck! My bride to be and I are paying for our own wedding and reception and we are on a very tight budget. We live in Missouri and have decided to get married on the Beach In Jacksonville,FL. My question is do I pay for dinner after the wedding for those who make it down even though I am having a reception back home where we are paying for meals, food, ect…? we have invited everyone who wanted to join us at our wedding to come but explained to them that there was no pressure to attend wedding that they could still be apart of the celebration at the reception back home..I do have family in Jacksonville and a family member suggested that I tell everyone where we (Bride and I) are going to eat and they are welcome to join but if they chose not too we would have snacks and beverages afterwards at my family members house which we will pay for including alcohol
Should you include a travel advisory on a wedding information card such as below?
Safety abroad:
It is important that our guests are safe therefore we request that you remain at the resort or participate in group excursions only. Travel or activities outside of the resort or group activities are at your own risk.
My brother in law has chosen a destinaiton wedding in Costa Rica…a very pricey trip. My wife’s family all has enough money to easily afford this trip, but our single income family of 4 simply cannot afford such a trip. This is causing a HUGE rift in the family (which has a host of other issues). Her mother has tons of money and could easily afford to pay for our whole family to go, but she cries poverty all the time. Both my brother in law and my mother in law are currently of the mindset of “Oh, you can’t afford the trip? I guess you’re not going.”
What’s the proper ettiquette SUPPOSED to be for something like this? Is it unreasonable for my wife to expect her family to try to find a way to help her attend her brother’s expensive destination wedding?
I am the MOH in my best friends wedding, and it is also the first destination wedding I have been to. The wedding is at an all-inclusive in mexico but it is still very expensive. My question is concerning the bachelorette party. I don’t know if I will be able to afford a traditional bachelorette party on top of the expensives for the destination wedding. But of course I still want my best friend to have a bachelorette party. Is it common to have the bachelorette party on location at the destination a few days prior, (since most people will be there for a few days anyway) which will help cut the cost because we will already have hotel rooms at the resort…Please let me know your thoughts..Thanks!
I want to send out a announcement card, as we are from Australia but are having the wedding in Italy. I want to give our guest ALOT of time to save up for the trip as airfares alone are 1500+ pp.
I want to let guests know that we are having it in Italy, and that it is ok if they cannot attend (we don’t expect anyone really to come except our close family).
I also want to let them know that if they are keen on coming to let me know so I can have a ball park figure to try and negotiate cheaper accommodation for group bookings for them.
My best friend is having a destination wedding and people are sharing their etiquette advice. Please clarify some feedback I have had so that I know what is proper:)
1- Stagette/Bachelorette Girl’s Night Out – Some have said it’s tacky to have a weekend away with a cost associated with it as people are already paying to go away for the wedding. What is good etiquette for this?
2- People keep asking me about gifts for the couple, some believe that their presence is gift enough. Should people be giving gifts for a destination wedding?
3- Shower etiquette – Is it tacky to ask people to contribute towards their honeymoon?
My fiancé and I wanted a fun Las Vegas wedding. Our ceremony is at the Mirage at 8:30pm and we do not want a reception after word but a sit down dinner at one of the Mirage restaurants. My father is paying for everything but only wants to pay for 30 people at the dinner. We were thinking about just inviting family and our MOH and best man(and their dates) excluding family-friends and friends. Is this acceptable? ( people would be coming from NJ) the invitation would only state the ceremony and we would send out something separate for the dinner. I just don’t know what is better not to invite certain people so everyone can go to dinner or do it the way i instated? Or not to send an invitation but more of an announcement?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
my fiance and I had a huge change in plans we were originaly getting married outdoors snd I sent out savethedates and everything… We decided that we couldn’t handle the pressures of planning the wedding I was getting stressed beyond belief. So we decided to get married on our honeymoon how do I send invites or just a hey heads up things havechanged here’s the registry here’s the info incase someone (eventhough very unlikely) wil still want to show up?
we are attending a pre-wedding cocktail reception the night before the wedding. can i wear a white cocktail dress?
We have a dilemma I hope you can help with. I am the mother of the bride. My husband and I are paying for the wedding. We have some long time friends (20 yrs) that my daughter does not like due to some slight when she was much younger. We were not even aware of the situation until the Save the Date cards were going out. My daughter has flatly stated she does not want this couple at her wedding under any circumstances. My husband and I don’t know how to handle this and are quite taken aback. Our friends are very excited about the wedding and expect to be invited. It is a destination wedding and they want to use this as a vacation. This will be quite a strain on our relationship with them.
What is the etiquette in this situation?
Sincerely, Pamela McGaw
I’m having a destination wedding and if we book so many rooms we get some free rooms. What is proper etiquette to who gets the free rooms or should I just use it for myself so there will be no fighting??
I am getting married in January 2014 in Cancun, Mexico. My question is regarding my bridal shower that my sister will be throwing for me. I know its not proper etiquitte to invite people that wont be coming to our destination wedding. However, we are having a reception when we return and plan on inviting everyone who isnt invited to the actual wedding. Do I still invite these people to my bridal shower?
Thanks!
-Kayla
We were not invited to the destination wedding, but did receive a post-wedding (casual) reception invite (about 2 months later)….we are unable to attend….should we still send a gift?…what is appropriate??
My fiance and I are planning on doing a destination wedding. I know we shouldn’t expect a gift from anyone that we will be inviting, but I’m feeling selfish and would like both (friends/family to come and for them to buy us a gift) The only reason why is because we have nothing and is already on pins and needles budgeting for our wedding. Please help. I need advice.
My son and his fiancee have been co-habitating for several years and recently purchased their first home. They are planning a destination wedding to which no one is invited. In this situation, is it appropriate to hold a bridal shower? If so, who plans and pays for the shower and how is the guest list determined?
Thank you.
My daughter is having a destination wedding and plans on about 50 people attending. She would also like to host a dinner in her home town and fiancees home town for those unable to attend or not on wedding guest list. How to do this without offending anyone?
Thank you,
Jane
What is considered a proper gift for the couple if they are paying for an all inclusive resort but not the airfare?
My fiancee and I want to include information on our wedding website about our reception back home after our destination wedding, but we are afraid of offending guests who are not invited to the actual destination wedding (as there will be information regarding both events on the website). How do we include the reception information without making these guests feel like they weren’t important enough to be invited to the “big day?”
My fiancé and I are trying to figure out the same thing!! Is it inappropriate to include the info for the hometown reception on the wedding website? Thanks! Jen
Same basic problem here, just with a slight twist. Our destination wedding is during an alternative event and while people are perfectly WELCOME, I really need them to be aware that they are not JUST coming to my wedding if they come that day. They will need day passes to the event and will need to abide by the event’s rules.
The reception will be more ‘normal’ and in a central location to both of our families, but we’ve already had family members freak out over the time line. I.E. “I can’t just sit in a hotel for a week after your wedding till the reception!”
The fact that it’s really an either/or type thing seems to be a hard concept.
Quick Question, getting married in Tahoe with my family then planning on having a post wedding celebration a month later. Are we suppose to provide dinner for our guest who attend the destination wedding?
Is it inappropriate to ask the brides parents to pay the hotel & airfare for the bride and groom for the duration of the destination wedding?