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How to Manage Your Family’s Reaction to Your Destination Wedding

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by Cynthia

So you just got engaged and after researching your options, you’ve decided that you want to have a destination wedding.  But you’re terrified of how your friends and family will react.  Will grandma be able to come?  Is my dad going to walk me down the aisle?  Will Aunt Clara accuse me of being selfish? Will anybody even show up?

Does this sound like you?  Keep reading for some tips to help bring your loved ones on board with your destination wedding.

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  • Manage Your Own Expectations First+−
    • 1.  It really is all about YOU
    • 2.  Don’t Expect Everyone to Be Thrilled
  • Managing Your Family’s Expectations+−
    • 1.  Put Feelers Out Before You Confirm Anything
    • 2.  Educate Them
    • 3.  Be the Anti-Bridezilla
    • 4.  Let it Go
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Manage Your Own Expectations First

Your planning will go a lot smoother and you’ll avoid a lot of stress if you manage your expectations from the beginning.  You have to remember two things:

1.  It really is all about YOU

First, take a deep breath and remember that this is your big day and (hopefully) the last wedding you’ll ever have.  And you have every right to do it your way.

2.  Don’t Expect Everyone to Be Thrilled

It’s also important to understand that not every single person you invite will agree with your choice to have a destination wedding.  Some people will resist. 

Destination weddings are a pretty novel concept and some people are just stuck on tradition and resist the unknown.  Others won’t be able to afford it.  Some can’t travel for health reasons.  The list goes on and on.   Knowing this from the get-go is half the battle, my friend.

Managing Your Family’s Expectations

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My mom was a little taken aback when I first told her that, not only did I want a small destination wedding with only 60 people, but I also wanted to get married on the beach and not in a big church like she always dreamed.  But I got her to come around.  In a big way.  My mom was blown away by how magical my wedding was.  She had the time of her life and is now the biggest advocate of destination weddings.

I know that not everyone will have such a happy story to tell.  If your family’s approval of your destination wedding is really important to you, here are some tips on how to convert the naysayers.

1.  Put Feelers Out Before You Confirm Anything

If there are must-have guests on your list – I’m talking about the I-would-never-get-married-if-they’re-not-there type of guests, then you need to speak with them before you make any plans. Way before.

Don’t make this a big group vote.  But put feelers out with only those really important people in your life, as soon as you get engaged, if not before.  Explain that your dream is to have a destination wedding and why.  Level with them.  Tell them that you can’t imagine having a cookie-cutter, traditional wedding.  Tell them how much it would mean to you to spend some quality time in paradise with those people who are most important to you, instead of just a few hours in a sterile hall.  See how they react and feel about it.

Involve them in the process so they don’t just feel like you’re forcing a trip on them.

2.  Educate Them

If your family is resisting a destination wedding but their presence is important to you, try to understand their reasons, and then counter them.

For example: Is your sister against it because she thinks it will be too expensive?  Show her that there are different options for all budgets.

Are your parents opposed to a destination wedding because they want you to get married in a church?  Well, you know what? There are churches in nearly every city on earth.  You can probably find one in your destination (if you’re willing to compromise on this one).

I wanted to exchange vows with the ocean as my backdrop.  And I wasn’t willing to compromise on that.  My mom wanted a church wedding.  I wanted to make her happy so I searched for ocean-view chapels and I found one.  I got married in a glass-enclosed chapel overlooking the ocean and it took everyone’s breath away.  Mom was happy. I was happy (and of course so was my hubby-to-be).  But the thing is that before I started planning and spoke to mom about her hesitation, we didn’t even know such a venue existed.

3.  Be the Anti-Bridezilla

Show that you’re willing to make things easy on your guests.  If they’re worried about childcare, choose a family-friendly resort and arrange for babysitters.   If grandma hates long flights don’t get married in Fiji – maybe something a little closer like Cancun, The Dominican Republic or Florida would be more suitable.

Provide resort options at different budget levels.   If (and only if) you can afford it, offer to cover some of the cost for those close relatives who are struggling financially.

4.  Let it Go

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All these gestures will go a long way to show that you are trying to be accommodating and unselfish.

But even when you try everything, some people will just not budge.  If all else fails, please keep two things in mind:

1) It’s your wedding, and hopefully your last one, so you have to make it count.

2) Did I mention that it’s your wedding?  If there’s ever a time in your life where you’re entitled to be a little selfish – this is it.  This is a once in a lifetime occasion and you should follow your heart so that you don’t have to live with regrets down the line.

And by the way, most people who are opposed to destination weddings end up having the time of their lives. It may take a little work at the beginning but they might end up thanking you in the end.

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About Cynthia

Cynthia is the founder and editor of Destination Wedding Details.She has over 15 years experience in the Marketing and Event industry and launched Destination Wedding Details in 2010, shortly after planning her own destination wedding. Cynthia uses her experience and genuine passion, to inspire brides who are planning their dream wedding away from home.

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    I was discussing a destination wedding with my mother. She seemed excited about the idea. I know my parents helped my older sister pay for a portion of her wedding (not destination). I was surprised when my mom told me that the money my parents would give to me for my wedding would go to their, and my immediate family’s travel (two sisters, husband-in-law and niece and nephew.) I was pretty shocked to hear that. Is it greedy of me to think their portion to cover my wedding should go towards my actual wedding and not towards their and my family’s vacation?

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      I don’t think you’re being greedy;) But I don’t think they’re wrong either. Anyone who travels to a destination wedding is incurring a significant expense. Unless your parents are very well off, it might put a strain on them to help pay for your wedding in addition to travel expenses. And although you may see it as their vacation, they probably wouldn’t make that trip if it weren’t for your wedding so it’s not a voluntary vacation. This is a tough question to answer without knowing your family’s situation. Would your siblings be able to afford the trip without your parent’s help? Would you be happy if your parents paid for the wedding even if your siblings didn’t attend the wedding because they can’t afford it? The answer really depends on their financial situation and your priorities. Maybe the way your parents see it, they are contributing to your wedding by making sure that the most important people in your life are there to celebrate with you.

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