This post is part of my Destination Wedding Etiquette Q&A series, where I answer my reader’s questions.
Destination Wedding Etiquette Question asked by Anonymous
Is it proper to invite people that are close to me but that I KNOW full well, cannot afford to come?
Cynthia @ Destination Wedding Details Says:
The key word you used in your question is “close”. If they are close to you then I believe etiquette goes out the window and it is perfectly acceptable to send them an invitation.
Circumstances change and you never know if they’ll be able to afford it at the eleventh hour. Even if you are certain that they absolutely can’t afford it, they might feel insulted that you didn’t “think about them”. You could hurt more feelings excluding them than by sending them the invitation.
Even if they can’t afford it, they might want to keep the invitation as a keepsake. I can’t tell you how many people couldn’t attend my destination wedding for circumstances outside of their control, but still asked me for the invitation as a keepsake.
If the people in question were simply acquaintances, then I might suggest you skip the invitations or risk looking like you’re doing it for gifts.
But the people close to you will know that you’re sending them an invitation because they are close to your heart. You can always follow up with an in-person/phone conversation, and tell them that you understand if they can’t make it to the wedding but you just wanted them to have the invitation anyway because they are so close to you. That way they won’t feel obligated or awkward about not accepting it.
I wish you the best of luck with your destination wedding!
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Cynthia is the founder and editor of Destination Wedding Details.She has over 15 years experience in the Marketing and Event industry and launched Destination Wedding Details in 2010, shortly after planning her own destination wedding. Cynthia uses her experience and genuine passion, to inspire brides who are planning their dream wedding away from home.